01 Dec

1st Day of Advent – Tips for Calm

If you follow me on Facebook you’ll know I’ve written a book called “Balance and Calm Toolkit for Christmas Calm”.

So I thought I’d share day 1 for you – in case your book hasn’t been delivered 🙂

Advent Countdown Day 1



Indoor Activity


Baking and Decorating Cookies


This is a quick recipe to make biscuits which can be decorated with either icing tubes or plain water icing with sprinkles. Let your little one help with weighing and tickling the butter into the flour


Measure out with your little one:


Fridge Cookies: makes approx. 50


–  250g plain flour

–  1 teaspoon baking powder

–  125g butter (cut into small cubes)

–  175g caster sugar

–  1 beaten egg

–  1 teaspoon vanilla extract



  • Sift flour with the baking powder in to a bowl.
  • Then rub the butter into the flour/ baking powder, so it looks like breadcrumbs
  • Add in sugar
  • Add in beaten egg with vanilla extract. Then mix to a smooth dough
  • Make the dough into a cylinder shape and wrap in cling film or foil.
  • Chill for 6-8 hours
  • Lightly grease baking sheets
  • Slice into thin discs and bake in a preheated oven at 170°C fan for 10-12 minutes, until golden
  • Cover the dough and store in fridge for another day’s baking


When cool you can decorate the biscuits – snowflakes, snowmen, Christmas pudding or presents or anything you love!



Outdoor Activity


Go for a Walk


Go for a walk where you can have several options:


  • Look for a branchy stick that you could hang homemade decorations on (even spray/paint gold or white)
  • Look for pinecones for another project later in the advent coutdown
  • Create a “can you spot” list before you go for each person to tick off (e.g. fir tree, school road signs, stop sign, bird, robin, dog, cat, bobble hat, person wearing glove). Add in anything you know is likely to be seen.



Calm Activity




  • Collect all your favourite story books and get a blanket for everyone
  • Get all of your Christmas stories (or movies) in one place so you can read them together. Create a story corner in the room or on the sofa
  • Sit and snuggle and read together
  • Maybe have one of the biscuits you decorated earlier J


Calm Activity




  • Have a good shake of your body, arms and legs whilst standing up.
  • Jump up and down to release any surplus energy
  • Lie down together on your back (so they can copy you)
  • Use a blanket if you want to, to be super warm and cosy
  • Wiggle fingers and toes
  • Take a deep breath in and out to relax. Notice how your tummy rises and falls with each breath
  • Close your eyes and imagine the bed/sofa you are lying on is hot toast and you are butter
  • Imagine that you are melting into the bed/sofa as you relax
  • Can you feel your legs melting and your back becoming part of the bed/sofa?
  • Feel the warmth of the toast warming your head and neck and arms, as they relax more and more
  • When you are ready open eyes and wiggle your fingers, toes and nose
  • How did your body feel? Nice and warm and relaxed?



Gratitude Exercise


Each day spend a few minutes with your child and share something that you are grateful, glad about, enjoyed during that day. Try and share 3 things each. It can be cuddles, activity, food and more. Simple things are perfect – doesn’t have to be seeing Santa or buying a present.


Today I am grateful for….

Today I am glad about …



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24 Nov

Need to Organise Some Christmas Calm

Is December approaching too quickly?

Kids counting down to the advent calendar?

The “should’s” building up and mild panic coming in?

Wondering what you’ll do to keep the kids amused or CALM through December

I have a little something for you – The Balance and Calm Toolkit for Christmas Calm Action Pack Read More

10 Nov

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How? Join the Create Family Calm Program! Read More

26 Jun

School Sports Day – Loved or Dreaded?

Do you love school sports day or loathe them?

Remember running with all your effort and coming close to last?

Or running the race and winning them all?

Ever do the parents race?


I can’t decide about them. Yes they are all inclusive and doing it in teams means they are involved in something bigger than just themselves. Yet some one will always come last, 2nd from last. Others will fall over or forget what they’re doing. Some are happy to run the three-legged race and giggle all the way and come last. Others don’t cope emotionally.


My son is one who find competition really hard. Last year he did a complicated “potato race” which involved running & collecting a ball running  back to the start and then running getting the next one & then finally running to the finish line. He was doing really well with the collecting (heading for a 1st place) but didn’t know or forgot to run to the finish line and so came last. He was upset, devastated in fact. He refused to go and sit back with his friends and stayed on my knee until the sports day was over. Even the cheering of the other parents just for him didn’t cheer him up. Losing is hard, especially with so many people watching you.

This year, I was thankful there was no running. Javelin (foam don’t panic!) and bean bag throwing. He was good at both but had a particularly good bean bag throw, he thought he was in with a chance. He came 5th out of 20 kids (did really well). He’d “held it together” for the whole event, behaved well and taken part in a positive way.

However, as he came out of school he burst into tears as he ran to me, as he’d only got 5th place and he’d really wanted to go on the podium. No matter how I said it was an excellent result and in the top 20% of throws, he wouldn’t have it.

Some children can enjoy the fun of the day, others you can see the strain of “keeping going” taking a toll on their emotions.

Bless him he held it together for so long, and as so often happens when they are in their safe place they relax and share their real emotions.

I can’t decide whether I like school sports day or swimming galas. We don’t put pressure on him, but emotionally he can really struggle.

Sports Day – Team Building – Competition? Good or Bad?

The jury’s out here – its all down to the child



23 Apr

Mindful Easter Egg Meditation

Well Easter has passed and I know my kids and hubby munched through their eggs within days! I’ve still got one whole one – its not that I haven’t eaten chocolate but more that I want to savour the experience.

As much as I love to eat chocolate  – a lot – I also want to try and be mindful with the experience – savour the texture, melting sensation and taste.

So I’ve recorded this mindful chocolate egg experience so I can enjoy the experience once the eggs have all gone!


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